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Sunday, February 15, 2026

The Feast of Saint Valentine



We went to George’s Kitchen, a diner in Cleveland, for a late breakfast on Valentine’s Day.  Our party consisted of me, the Common Household Husband, Older Daughter and her husband.


It was the diner-iest looking diner I have seen in a long time.  Our seasoned waitress was clad in a beautiful bright red sweater, appropriate for this saint’s day.  As we arrived at our table, I observed several patrons shoving money into the waitress’s apron pocket as they were leaving.  They clearly adored her.  


George wants everyone to eat a lot of eggs.  The menu discouraged the ordering of eggs in increments of one or two.  All breakfast dishes were THREE eggs plus something else, such as corned beef hash, or bacon & hash browns, or an omelette.  EXCEPT, if you ordered pancakes, you could then add TWO eggs.  


The menu said, “Absolutely no substitutions” at the top of every page.  I was downright afraid to ask for just two eggs, without ordering pancakes.


The waitress took our order, calling my 30+ year-old daughter “dear”, a requirement in a diner.  On the down side, orange juice was the only juice available.  On the up side, the CHH was excited to order corned beef hash.  He’s not going to get that at home.


When we were finished giving our order, the waitress said, “Ok, thanks.  I’ll be back in a couple of hours,” and walked away.


A short time later, she served us our large meals. A while later she came back to check on us.  Upon seeing that the CHH had cleaned bare his plate of corned beef hash, she said, “Oh, you did a good job on that!”  CHH teased, “Well, I was waiting for you to bring me some breakfast.”  She replied that she was all alone because she had killed two husbands. 


As we were lingering over breakfast, we heard the man at the table behind us call our waitress over.  I did not look, but could hear that he had a baby with him.  We overheard him say, “I have a huge request. And there will be a big tip in it for you.  Would you be able to watch my baby while I go out to the car?  I know it’s a big thing to ask, but I will only be gone a few minutes.”  I guess he had not heard her comment about former husbands.    She agreed to look after Baby.


At our table, the CHH murmured his doubt that Single Dad would actually return.  We held our breath.  A minute passed. The waitress cooed at the baby.  Our tension increased.  Two minutes.  Then, sigh of relief, Single Dad returned.  Faith in human beings restored, at least for today!


I’m not much into Valentine’s Day, but our red-sweatered waitress showed us the day of love in action.  (Perhaps we should ask those deceased husbands if they know St. Valentine, who might be hanging out with them in martyr’s row in heaven).  


I wish I could write novels, if only so I could put that waitress into a book.   


Handwritten sign on the door
listing the hours.  
No service after 2:45 PM!



Saturday, May 31, 2025

First Lines: May 2025 edition



Below are the first lines of the six books I finished reading in May.  Short books because I am short on concentration.  And there was an election to attend to.  And a democracy to save from corruption and autocracy.    

 

Book 1

A Note to the Gentle Reader

It’s happened.  You’ve finally taken that dream trip to England.

 

 

Book 2

Chapter I

The Demise of the Author

I debated for a time as to whether I ought to open these memoirs at the beginning or at the end – that is, if I would start out with my birth or with my death.


 

Book 3

Police Constable Penny Rogers had been right on the bumper of the minibus, siren wailing and lights flashing, for several miles before it finally pulled on to the hard shoulder of the motorway.

 

 

Book 4

June 13, 2008

I glance down at a familiar number on my phone, one that traces back to NBC News in Washington.  Probably Dad checking in.  



Book 5

  i attack the day with energy and conviction [art shows a person still in bed]

  i make my own choices      i sit down in the shower


 

Book 6

My husband said something a few years ago that I often quote:  Eighty percent of everything that is true and beautiful can be experienced on any ten-minute walk.  Even in the darkest and most devastating times, love is nearby if you know what to look for.  


Prayer for the cosmos.  2022.  Still applies.

 


 

The titles and authors revealed:

 

 

Book 1

Your Guide to Not Getting Murdered in a Quaint English Village

Maureen Johnson with Jay Cooper (Illustrator)

128 pages • first pub 2021


A very fast read.  I needed this in order to get back into reading.  Having read numerous murder mysteries set in quaint English villages, I can say that this book is both amusing and accurate.  No plot, no characters.   Watch out for the vicar!

 

 

Book 2

The Posthumous Memoirs of Brás Cubas

By Machado de Assis, Flora Thomson-DeVeaux, Translator

240 pages • first pub 1881.  This translation

fiction classics


I first heard of this one on booktube - Tristan and the Classics.  I picked it because it sounded similar to Tristram Shandy*, and it promised to be amusing and short.  Then I mentioned it to my daughter and she started RAVING about it.  She read it as part of her big reading project to read, within one year, one book related to each country on a continent.  This one was for Brazil.


It’s a satire, mocking the upper class of colonial Brazil.  There are layers to the mockery, and I am sure I did not get everything there is to get about this book.  I think (not sure) it is also mocking the 19th century novel, and 19th century philosophers.  It seems to be a book ahead of its time.  I did get bogged down in the middle section (I stopped reading and then resumed a few weeks later).  It is composed of usually extremely short chapters.  Nevertheless, because I often wanted to look at the helpful footnotes, it was a slow read.


In a previous translation, the title is translated as Epitaph of a Small Winner.


I abandoned the ~200-page translation by Gregory Rabassa, mainly because it was a hardcover and the print was too small; the Rabassa translation was published in 1997, and I thought I could benefit from a newer version.  Translation can make a huge difference in the reader’s experience with a book, so I carefully researched and ended up buying the kindle version of Flora Thomson-DeVeaux’s translation.  (God and/or the Flying Spaghetti Monster will have to forgive me for giving that small amount of money to Amazon.)  It has helpful footnotes but not an overwhelming number of them.  I am very annoyed that the cover of the book does not name the translator!  This is unfair to Flora Thomson-DeVeaux.  Not only is that a name that is pleasant to say out loud, but for her efforts her name should be on the cover.


*Full title: The Life and Opinions of Tristram Shandy, Gentleman, by Laurence Sterne, published in 1760, a good deal earlier than Bras Cubas.  My college Russian Lit teacher introduced me to Tristram Shandy, but it was not part of any curriculum.

 

 

Book 3

How to Age Disgracefully

By Clare Pooley

352 pages • first pub 2024

fiction contemporary


“Romp” could be a good word to describe this book.  It took me a while to get into it but once they started all the plotting I really started enjoying it.  There was nothing sinister (although there is some violence related to drug trade) – they were plotting how to save the community center and carrying out a bit of personal revenge.  And then I saw the reference to Iona Iverson, the main character in Pooley’s previous book, and I was all in.  Quirky, fun characters and plot.

 

 

Book 4

Look for Me There: Grieving My Father, Finding Myself

By Luke Russert

272 pages • first pub 2023

nonfiction memoir travel


A travel memoir by a lost soul looking to find himself.  The chapter where he escapes a coup is fascinating.  I ended up underwhelmed by the author’s discoveries about himself, but the travel descriptions were quite interesting.  Content warning: alcoholism, grief.  

 

 

Book 5

Conquer the Day: A Book of Affirmations

By Josh Mecouch

144 pages • published 2021. comic book


A very clever and often funny book, but also kind of depressing.  Be warned - the affirmations are ironic.

 

 

Book 6

Somehow: Thoughts on Love

By Anne Lamott

208 pages • first pub 2024

nonfiction essays

For book club in June.


A meaningful book.  An easy read, but also challenging because, let’s face it, there are people in this world whom I do not want to love.  Love is not an easy action.

 

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I had better get my concentration back soon, because in August, one book club has assigned me to read Say Nothing: A True Story of Murder and Memory in Northern Ireland by Patrick Radden Keefe.  441 pages • first pub 2018.  True crime.   Not my usual genre!


Saturday, May 7, 2022

The Gospel of John, Chapter 21: Breakfast


 

The Gospel of John, Chapter 21: Breakfast


Read Chapter 21 here.


Since the previous chapter ended with some final-sounding words, this actual last chapter serves as a kind of epilogue or postscript.  


By the Sea of Tiberias (perhaps more familiar to us by one of its other names - the Sea of Galilee) some of the disciples are gathered.  The group includes Simon Peter, Doubting Thomas, The Disciple Whom Jesus Loved (TDWJL), and a few others.  Simon Peter says “I am going fishing” and the others go with him.  They are fishing at night, from a boat, but they do not catch a single fish.


The narrator informs us of the time of day, which, as we have seen before, is likely significant: 

Just after daybreak, Jesus stood on the beach, but the disciples did not know that it was Jesus.  (verse 21:4)


This is similar to the other resurrection appearances - Jesus shows up, but the disciples do not recognize him immediately.  Jesus speaks first, asking them if they have caught any fish, and they say, nope.  He suggests that they cast their fishing net to the right side of the boat.  They do so, and their net is so full of fish they can hardly haul it in.   


At this moment, TDWJL recognizes Jesus and exclaims to Peter, “It is the Lord!”  The text says:

When Simon Peter heard that it was the Lord, he put on his outer garment, for he had taken it off, and jumped into the sea.  (verse 21:7)

It seems Pete is shocked and embarrassed. Because he is naked?  Because he doubts the resurrection?  We don’t know.  The other disciples drag the heavy net into the boat.


They all go ashore and find a charcoal fire there.  There is fish cooking, and some bread.  Jesus asks them to bring some of the fish they have just caught.  The text specifies that the net is full of large fish, 153 of them.  Another piece of miracle is that despite the huge haul, the net is not torn.





Jesus says “Come and have breakfast.”  A wonderful and simple invitation.  By this point, all the disciples recognize that it is the Lord.  Jesus gives them bread and fish.  The author notes that this is Jesus’ third resurrection appearance to the disciples.  Jesus’ appearance to Mary Magdalene doesn’t count, because she ain’t no disciple.  Or so the gospel author and centuries of tradition would have us think.


What do I love about this story?  I love it because it was one of my Mom’s favorite Bible scenes.  I love it because it’s breakfast, and cooked by Jesus.  I love it because Jesus is so down to earth and friendly.  He is quite unlike what we have seen in some of the earlier chapters of this gospel. I love it because it has a miracle involving fish.  I love it because Peter is impetuous, as always.  And I love that it is so specific about the number of fish caught.


Next we have the famous passage where Jesus offers Peter redemption from Peter’s three denials of Jesus on the night of his arrest.  Three times, Jesus asks Peter “Do you love me?”  This time, Peter is able to reply in the affirmative, three times.  Jesus has some instructions to go along with the redemption, and a dire prediction.  It’s worth sharing the whole dialogue:


When they had finished breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon son of John, do you love me more than these?” 


He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love you.” 


Jesus said to him, “Feed my lambs.” A second time he said to him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” 


He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love you.” 


Jesus said to him, “Tend my sheep.” He said to him the third time, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” 


Peter felt hurt because he said to him the third time, “Do you love me?” And he said to him, “Lord, you know everything; you know that I love you.” 


Jesus said to him, “Feed my sheep. Very truly, I tell you, when you were younger, you used to fasten your own belt and to go wherever you wished. But when you grow old, you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will fasten a belt around you and take you where you do not wish to go.” (He said this to indicate the kind of death by which he would glorify God.) After this he said to him, “Follow me.”

(verses 15-19)


And so we have circled back to the start of the gospel.  In 1:39, Jesus issues the simple invitation to the first disciples - “Come and see,” just as simple as “Come and have breakfast.”  In 1:42 Jesus says to Peter “You are Simon son of John.  You are to be called Cephas (Peter)”.  And here in Chapter 21 Jesus calls Peter “Simon son of John” just as he did at the start.  And in 1:43, Jesus says to another new disciple, “Follow me.”


It’s now the dawn of a new day.  We have an immense catch of fish.  We enjoy a hearty meal with close friends, sitting by the sea.  We have a renewed sense of purpose.  Given the particular week in which I am writing this, I find re-reading this story immensely comforting.  Jesus’ language is all about invitation and companionship and love; he does not use force or oppression.  “Come and have breakfast.” 


Although the story has circled back to the beginning, Jesus does not seek to return to how things were.  Jesus wants to move forward with love.


At the same time, Jesus’ words are perplexing.  Jesus reaches back to one of the major metaphors of the gospel – the sheep and the Good Shepherd – and assigns to Peter, and by implication us, the task of caring for his “sheep”.  There’s very little explanation on how to do that.  Would that we could live up to what Jesus is asking us to do!  Perhaps it’s good that Jesus didn’t spell it out to specifically, because how we tend the “sheep” now has to be different than what was needed in 1st century Palestine. Or in 17th century England, a time that at least one US Supreme Court Justice, curiously, feels is relevant to our jurisprudence.  Or in 21st century United States.


From Jesus’ prediction, Peter knows that it will not be all sweetness and light to be tending Jesus’ sheep.  


The next paragraph focuses on The Disciple Whom Jesus Loved and implies a kind of rivalry between Peter and TDWJL.  TDWJL had been following Jesus and Peter during their close conversation.  Peter asked Jesus, “Lord, what about him?”  (verse 22).  Jesus replies “If it is my will that he remain until I come, what is that to you?  Follow me!”  The implication is that TDWJL will not die, but then the narrator denies that is the meaning of what Jesus said.  Jesus is basically saying, never mind about the other disciple, you just keep your eyes on me and follow me.  


This week, powerful people in this country showed just how much they want to impose draconian abortion restrictions on all women, no matter the woman’s circumstances. I will interpret this passage about Peter and TDWJL (John 21:21-23) as showing us that Jesus does not make the same rules apply to everyone.  He is able to take into account the particulars of both Peter and John’s situation.  Jesus knows each person’s situation is unique.  Justice Alito, the rest of McConnell’s Handmaidens on the Supreme Court, and on down the line to state legislators - they have no qualms about applying the steepest penalty across the board regardless of the circumstances surrounding a pregnancy (but zero penalty for the man causing an unintended pregnancy! and zero intention to provide healthcare coverage for those involved!).


But I believe Jesus is able to see the need of the woman who has a miscarriage that looks just like an abortion attempt.  I believe Jesus is able to see the need of the woman in the 3rd trimester of pregnancy, very much intended, but who finds out something has gone wrong and her health is threatened.  I believe Jesus is able to see the need of the woman who already has three children, has an unintended pregnancy, and just lost her job and her health insurance, and can’t see how she will support another child.  I believe Jesus is able to see the need of the woman with an unintended pregnancy because a man raped and impregnated her.  The Jesus I worship will not oppress these women the way Justice Alito would.  And yes, forcing any of these women to give birth against their will is oppression.


Theodicy would address why these women end up in these horrible circumstances in the first place, but I'm not going there. There is no good answer to that question. In Jesus' prediction about Peter's fate, Jesus is acknowledging that horrible things happen.


In the final paragraph of the gospel the narrator reveals that he himself is The Disciple Whom Jesus Loved:

This is the disciple who is testifying to these things and has written them, and we know that his testimony is true. But there are also many other things that Jesus did; if every one of them were written down, I suppose that the world itself could not contain the books that would be written.  (verses 24-25)


Thus ends this reading of the Gospel of John.  Thanks be to God.  It was not an easy read, but I feel I have gained blessing from the reading of it.  


Sunday, April 10, 2022

The Gospel of John, Chapter 15: Vine and Branches


 

The Gospel of John, Chapter 15: Vine and Branches


Read Chapter 15 here.



This chapter consists of aphorisms stated by Jesus.  Presumably this is to his beloved disciples, after their special dinner.  Jesus has a lot to impart to his disciples before the painful events of the week truly begin.  


The most frequent word in this chapter (aside from prepositions and connecting words) is “abide”, which appears 11 times, usually in the phrase “abide in.”


I am the vine

We begin with another “I am” statement:

“I am the true vine, and my Father is the vinegrower.”  (verse 1) and

“I am the vine, you are the branches.” (verse 5)

You are going to get pruned (cleansed).  The point is for the vine to bear more fruit.  You’ve got to stay attached to me (Jesus) because, unattached, you can’t do anything. In fact you’ll be thrown into the fire and burned.  Stick with me and you will bear fruit.


In the middle of this vine metaphor, we also get a repeat of the “in me” statement of Chapter 14:

“Abide in me as I abide in you.” (verse 4)

This idea is repeated 4 times in slightly different ways in the first 10 verses.


My commandment: love one another

“If you keep my commandments you will abide in my love.”


And what are the commandments?  We get a repeat from Chapter 13:34-35:

“This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.  No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.  You are my friends if you do what I command you.”

Jesus says to the disciples, I’m calling you friends instead of servants now because I’ve told you everything that I have heard from God.


“You did not choose me but I chose you.  And I appointed you to go and bear fruit…”


Nobody will like you

The world hated me (Jesus) first, and the world will hate you.  The gospel continues the black-and-white dichotomy between those who align with Jesus and those who don’t.  


Jesus refers to a mysterious thing he said back in Chapter 13:16, right after he washed the disciples feet: 

“Very truly, I tell you, servants are not greater than their master, nor are messengers greater than the one who sent them.”  

And here in 15:20 Jesus says:

 “Remember the word that I said to you, ‘Servants are not greater than their master.’ If they persecuted me, they will persecute you; if they kept my word, they will keep yours also.”  

I had originally surmised that the statement might mean “keep in your own lane; know your place.”  But here the meaning of the statement seems to be that Jesus’ disciples can expect to be treated the same way Jesus can be treated.  Jesus will be persecuted and so will the disciples.  


Testify

When the Spirit of Truth comes from the Father, the Spirit will testify on my (Jesus) behalf.  You also should testify.


Metaphors:  vine, vinegrower, branches, fruit; servants, master, friends; 

Images and themes:  stay connected to Jesus, commandment to love one another, the hatred of the “world”

People/Beings:   Jesus, disciples, God the Father., “the world”

Places: we have kind of lost the sense of place because this chapter consists of sermons, not events.


Saturday, October 26, 2019

Kochanim: Ahava and Shalom

Art sent to our synagogue from a Hillel in New York state, to express love and caring for the Jews of Pittsburgh following the Oct 27, 2019 terrorist shooting at Tree of Life Synagogue.


 כוכבים

                                                 Kohanim - stars






Thursday, February 14, 2019

Valentine's Day Haikus for the Married Couple



Valentine’s Day haikus 
exchanged between my husband and me

I love you a lot.
I hope you feel better soon.
See you tomorrow.


I love you very much.
I hope you don’t get sick.
Umm, yeah.

That was sort of what we said to each other. 

The Common Household Husband is, thankfully, recovering, thanks to antibiotics, fluids, and rest. 

The main goal of all of us is that the person who just started a new job CANNOT get sick right now.

I have washed my hands more times than I know.   This is love.

Go thou and do likewise.